INvocation – Have some faith

Eloquently defined in Hebrews 11:1, faith is the “substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”  Faith is important in any belief system and equally necessary in relationships.

Faith is trusting without completely knowing.  It is hoping when all else says otherwise.  Now in relation to God, faith is never disappointed.  In relation to mankind and your relationship, people can let you down.  But it is that belief that puts you on your knees in prayer that keeps you positive about tomorrow.  It is that belief, that hope, that faith that bridges you to grace – love undeserved.  When you connect to something so much larger than yourself, the positivity and the calm you find resonates in your life and your love life.

So have some faith.  If such belief can be as small as a mustard seed and still move mountains, imagine what it can do for your relationship?

 

Good life ,good love,

CH & the IW

The only wreck to be in – the Relationship Emergency Kit (REK)

We pronounce it “wreck” but it’s the REK – Relationship Emergency Kit.  We pronounce it, we endorse it and we ALL need it from time to time.

What is a Relationship Emergency Kit?  It’s a collection of skills, talents, ideas and materials used to save your relationship.  It is a collection of physical items and acts, emotional moods and moments and mental thoughts and awareness.  A REK is used when it’s almost too late, when the emergency is upon you!  Just like in real life disasters, this emergency kit is used when the problems is here.  REKs are also used when you see an emergency coming!

The types of emergencies that relationships face include Communication emergencies, Intimacy emergencies, Financial emergencies and The Cleaner.  We use REKs because we want to save our relationships!  Relationship Emergency Kits should have an Innerspouse, momentos (e.g. CDs, love notes, G.R.A.T.E.s, photographs) and additional items that tie you and your other half together through the good and the bad.  REKs can stop Relationship Decay, reverse damage and heighten your relationship’s current status.

So, is your Emergency Kit ready?

Good life, good love,

CH & the IW

 

INvocation – Without action

Going to church can be an amazing bonding experience for a couple.  In service, we can learn important lessons about faith, hope and love.  We can learn about our lives with God, our prayers to Christ and we can learn about patience and forgiveness.  But like any activity, if there is too much time spent learning and there is no time spent acting, then our relationship both romantic and spiritual can wither.

Faith without action is dead faith.  Do not allow yourself to spend so much time learning that you never get out of the classroom to apply what you’ve learned.  While being in church, being on committees and attending bible classes all have great impacts, get out and do what you’re taught.  Do your faith, apply your lessons on love and practice patience.  Do them, apply them and practice them together and, most importantly, to one another.

 

Good life, good love,

CH & the IW

INvocation – Prayer of St Francis

One of my favorite prayers is the prayer of 13th century saint, Giovanni Francesco di Bernardone later deemed St Francis of Assisi.  Not only is this prayer a poem unto itself but it is also a great set of guidelines for our relationships.  We spend more time with our significant others trying to get them to understand us rather than trying to understand them.  We spend more time getting angry than we do spreading peace.  We spend more time trying to be loved rather than loving.  The prayer of the friar flips the typical desires of relationships upside down.  It is not about ourselves but about others and in this case, our significant other.

How good would it be if two people sought to understand one another, love one another and be peaceful for one another rather than for themselves?  Take a look at the good saint’s prayer below.  He was married to his faith and his lasting words also bring faith to marriage.

Good life, good love,

 

CH & the IW

THE PRAYER OF ST FRANCIS

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.

Where there is hatred, let me sow love.

Where there is injury, pardon.

Where there is doubt, faith.

Where there is despair, hope.

Where there is darkness, light.

Where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master,

grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled, as to console;

to be understood, as to understand;

to be loved, as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive.

It is in pardoning that we are pardoned,

and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life.

Amen.

INvocation – “Wives submit…”

Thought that would get your attention…

One of the most discussed sections of the Bible is in the book of Ephesians.  It is this book where the phrase “Wives submit to your husbands…” appears.  While many a couple has found this verse a subject for discussion, too many have found it a topic for disagreement.  Taken by itself, it is a hot button.  However, the rest of the verse(s) that follow do more than sound like ancient macho subjugation.  The rest of the verse(s) that follow go on to tell husbands to love their wives, lay down their lives for their wives and ultimately to love their wives with nourishment and cherish.  The verse right before “wives submit…” tells all to submit to one another.

While this passage could be used to split and polarize men and women, let it bring us together.  It is not about one bowing down to another in an imbalance.  It is about two people living for and loving one another.

A story once said that in Heaven and Hell people must eat with long spoons but cannot bend their arms to feed their own faces.  In Hell, everyone starves because they worry about feeding themselves.  In Heaven, everyone is well fed because each feeds those next to them, whose faces one another can reach with ease.

Submit unto one another with love, care and the utmost respect.  Wives submit?  Yes.  But husbands do as well.  Wives get your husband’s back and he, in turn, is to get yours.

Good life, good love,

CH & the IW

Innerwife.com update – Tips for the Holidays and Wedding Planning

Hi all, check out www.innerwife.com for new links discussing how to survive the upcoming holidays (and still stay a couple!) and tips on wedding planning and surviving the big day for her and for him!

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* TYING THE KNOT, NOT THE NOOSE! TIPS FOR THE WEDDING!

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Good life, good love,

CH & the IW

INvocation – “Weeping may endure…”

One of my favorite scriptures from the Bible is “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.” Who of us, in life and especially in relationships, has not had a moment (or moments) of blue, of sorrow, of low spirits and high depression?  Whether it be a disappointment in your partner or a flash of anger in you, there are always moments of weeping.  But, like the verse, the low points, the valleys may last but they end and are replaced with the opposite: happiness, the peaks, celebration and joy.

Remember this as you and your partner grow and endure weeping together and apart.  Remember that joy is waiting on the other side of the night.

Good life, good love,

CH & the IW

INvocation – Pray together, Stay together

The family that prays together tends to stay together.  Not only is it due to the mutual expression of faith but it is also tied to spending quality time together as well.  Expressing your beliefs together extends another level of communication, sincerity and trust.  Take some time, take a knee and pray together.

Good life, good love,

CH & the IW

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As always, Good Life, Good Love

CH & the IW