IN the News – Do you LIKE me – even if I’m married? Facebook cited as marriage-buster

http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/facebook-ruining-marriage-social-network-named-a-divorce-filings-2011-article-1.1083913?localLinksEnabled=false

INsight – “Hard because it’s worth it”

If we’re meant to love, why must it be so hard?

Because it is worth it.

Ask the mother who has endured hours of labor and even surgery if the pain and exhaustion were hard.  Ask the student who has spent night after night, day after day with their head buried in their studies if the years of school have been hard.  Ask the husband of that wife and the father of that student if those events were hard! 

And they would all say yes.  Now ask the mother as she holds her child, the student as they cross the stage and the husband and father as he beams with joy if these events were worth it: they will say yes.

Love is hard because it’s worth it. Marriage, relationships are constantly tested and they test us in return.  Why?  Because the rewards are so great. 

Good life, good love

 

CH & the IW

IN the News – Til Reset Do Us Part – Video games & relationships

What Video Games Teach Us About Marriage – http://kotaku.com/5904870/what-video-games-teach-us-about-marriage

 

 

 

IN the News – “But baby, her feelings meant nothing to me!”

Are you having ‘emotional sex?” – http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-04-27/man-woman/31421002_1_chat-friend-platonic-emotional-support

 

 

 

IN the News – Sex drives relationships into the ground?

http://www.chicagotribune.com/features/tribu/sc-fam-0410-disappearing-sex-20120410,0,7386017.story

INsights – Too much information

You’re in love.  You want to share everything.  But there is such a thing as TMI (Too Much Information.)  Ladies, we don’t need details of your periods or your bathroom experiences or any non-life threatening hygiene issues.  At the risk of sounding sexist, we need to keep the fantasy alive – we know you have gas, diarrhea and other bodily functions but we do not need this knowledge confirmed.  There is such a thing as too much information.

 

INsights – STOP Resolutions, Just Change

It’s 2012 and everyone has words of hope, opportunity and possibility.  These elements are greatly expressed in the form of resolutions – promises to do better and be more, promises to lose weight and to love better.  But there is one other thing people have in common besides making resolutions – breaking them.   We give up on our weight loss routines.  We stop going to the gym.  We let our saving attempts go and we stop trying to be better in love. 

Maybe it was listening to our partners.  Maybe it was asking out that coffee house girl.  Whatever the resolution was, we have let it go.  So that is why we say STOP.  STOP the resolutions.  STOP the empty promises.  Just change instead.  Need to get healthier?  Just change.  Need to get a better job?  Just change.  Need to love better?  Get an Innerwife or Innerhusband…and then just change.  Rather than talking a big game, play it.  Do it.  The time for words is over.  The time for action is here.  There is no action in resolutions.  So just change instead.

Good life, good love,

CH & the IW

INsights – Too Nice? Time to be BAD

“But he’s just too nice!” How many of you have had the previous sentence tied to your name. The nice guy. “He’s like a brother.” The nice girl. “She’s more like a sister.” Those who have lived their lives being nice have often found their love lives far from satisfactory. They have often lived love-lives through the adventures of others. Why? Because they have been too nice. Time to be BAD.

Too nice can carry negative aspects such as indecision because you’re worried about others’ opinion. You can be too soft spoken and unheard because you’re concerned about speaking your mind. You can also be forgotten because you never say what you want, what you don’t want and also how you feel (e.g. “But I always wanted to ask him/her out.”)

So, be BAD. Not a jerk or a skank or a bully. But Bold, Assertive and Direct. There is nothing wrong with speaking your mind (which can be done tactfully). There is nothing wrong with refusing to be stepped over and there is nothing more attractive than confidence. Be Bold and take risks – grow outside your comfort zone. Be Assertive – tell people your opinion when your asked and when it affects you. Finally, be Direct, many people will take your hemming and hawing and beating around the bush for lack of interest. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Stop being nice. Start being BAD.

Good life, good love,

CH & the IW

The only wreck to be in – the Relationship Emergency Kit (REK)

We pronounce it “wreck” but it’s the REK – Relationship Emergency Kit.  We pronounce it, we endorse it and we ALL need it from time to time.

What is a Relationship Emergency Kit?  It’s a collection of skills, talents, ideas and materials used to save your relationship.  It is a collection of physical items and acts, emotional moods and moments and mental thoughts and awareness.  A REK is used when it’s almost too late, when the emergency is upon you!  Just like in real life disasters, this emergency kit is used when the problems is here.  REKs are also used when you see an emergency coming!

The types of emergencies that relationships face include Communication emergencies, Intimacy emergencies, Financial emergencies and The Cleaner.  We use REKs because we want to save our relationships!  Relationship Emergency Kits should have an Innerspouse, momentos (e.g. CDs, love notes, G.R.A.T.E.s, photographs) and additional items that tie you and your other half together through the good and the bad.  REKs can stop Relationship Decay, reverse damage and heighten your relationship’s current status.

So, is your Emergency Kit ready?

Good life, good love,

CH & the IW

 

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