Love IN a Battlefield – Stay on point
January 22, 2012 Leave a Comment
We all disagree. Find a relationship where people never disagree and you’ll find either a relationship where one person dominates the other or two people who never interact. It is the nature of being human that we have wants and needs. Sometimes those desires conflict with our loved one and we argue, we fight.
However, it is all too common that we do not discuss (probably realistic to say argue!) about the issue at hand. We reach back and pull out the stops. It’s not about being rude to her friend or her forgetting to pick him up; it becomes about how she forgot to get the mail last week, how his brother has always been rude since they’ve met, how she never gets along with her friends and how he has never supported her job. We start a disagreement and we bring up firestorm. It is not fair, it is not healthy and it is not using your innerspouse.
Put yourself in their shoes – you don’t like it when an argument turns into every mistake you’ve ever made so why expect your partner to enjoy it? It is too easy to fall back to old ways and digging up dirt and pain just because ultimately we are feeling pained by the disagreement. But remember, this is not an enemy – it is the person you love. By staying on the reason for the argument, you can quicker solve the issue, compromise and grow. Stay on point and stay together.
Good life, good love,
CH & the IW
