INsights – Building your Innerspouse, pt. 2 – Remember “When”

It’s easy to forget a lot of pieces of information about who are special someone is.  We end up so consumed by the routine, the rut and the eventual rot of our relationships that we stop considering who we love.  And in forgetting the wonders of this person, we fail to create an Innerspouse.

Well good thing you found part two of how to build your own Innerspouse.

Remembering the “when” of your partner is major in understanding who they are and how they think.  When is about time and times.  And time reminds us of our partner’s growth and development into the person we love.  Time also reminds us of the brevity of life which can fire us up to get off our lazy romantic butts.  The times are about moments which define our relationship – firsts, most recent’s, always and never’s.  It is the time that brings our spousal knowledge from beginning to present.  It is the times which serves as pinpoints in our knowledge.

The when includes:

• When you first met
• When you fell in love
• When you said “I love you.”
• When they were born
• The time when they were hurt they most
• The time when they were the happiest
• When they smile
• When they cry
• When they enjoy making love
• When they’re at their best and at their not-so-good

Unlike the “Who,” the “When” in Innerspouse building can have some negative answers.  Because when is not how you look at your partner but about the life of your partner and the events in that life.  Events in and of themselves are not good or bad but are.  And some of these “when’s” may have had a positive effect on your spouse regardless of their hardship.

So get out there and “when” one for the Innerwife.

Good life, good love,

CH & the IW