What is an Innerwife?

What is an Innerwife?  Good question and I know alot of people have asked this question.  Simply put, the Innerwife is a developed sense of consideration for your wife or girlfriend.  There is also the Innerhusband representing the developed sense of consideration for a husband or boyfriend. 

It’s an amazing tool towards communication and riding through relationshps much smoother.  They allow us to virtually talk through various scenarios with mental copies of our spouses and avoid fights, surprise with meaningful gestures and deepen our relationship.  Innerspouses can make love and life much easier with our Outer or real spouses.

For example, the other day I was talking with a friend who said his wife upset him because she chose to react via her interpretations rather than talk to him how HE needed to be talked to rather than how she wanted to talk to him.  She failed to use her Innerhusband to anticipate her real husband’s reactions to her actions. 
They were in a situation which disappointed my friend.  His wife asked him to open up about how he felt.  When he did she got angry at him because his feelings were not to her liking.  Had she used her innerhusband she would have tried this:

Wife: “ARRRH! There he goes again!  That attitude makes me so mad!  I’m going to tell him a piece of my mind!!!!”
Innerhusband: “But honey, you asked the real me to open up.  He’s telling you how he felt.  If you react instead of listen, then you’ll attack him and he’ll blow up at you.  How would you feel in his shoes?”
Wife: “I guess…the same.  And, you’re right, I told him to be open so if I yell, he’ll only shut down even more next time…”

Innerwives, husbands and spouses use simulation which avoids aggravation and leads to reciprocated appreciation and mutual communication.  Next time you get to a relationship nexus or crossroad (and everyday is full of them) try and stop and run  your next few words through your Innerspouse.  You’ll know how your real spouse will react and you’ll know how to TALK to achieve better communication and closeness.