DriveIN – Be careful with passengers
Remember when you first started driving? One of the first things your parents told you was to be careful with passengers, watch who rides with you.
That applies to relationships.
Of course, you should make sure your partner is someone you can rely on, be with, etc. But you should also be aware of who is with you in your relationship in terms of friends, shoulders-to-lean on, etc. Your friends and even your family will always have opinions about what to do, how to do it, etc when it comes to your lovelife and relationship.
But they’re not in it. You are. You can have a perspective of where things are going (you, the car, your relationship, your partner, etc) that someone in the passenger seat doesn’t have. So filter what you listen to and what you don’t. Take their advice for what it’s worth.
Drive and be careful of passengers.
Good life, good love,
CH & the IW
Add comment December 7, 2009
IN the News – Tiger, Tiger, Burning…Not so bright
He’s admitted to it. Golf phenom Tiger Woods has admitted to “transgressions” in the wake of a car accident and allegations of affairs beginning last week. Sadly, here we have another celebrity taken down not by venomous critics but by their own libido and superego.
Kobe. Chris Brown. Now Tiger. Is it fame and power that leads men of status to believe that the regular rules of relationships and right-and-wrong don’t apply? Is it the constant world of “anything I want” that they live in? Whatever the case, another man has fallen because of nothing more than that foolishly sought greener grass.
Good life, good love,
CH & the IW
1 comment December 2, 2009
INsights – Arguscussions and Discussionments
Do you have arguscussions or discussionments? Question mark, right?
Most of us communicate in one of four ways:
We start talking, we open up, we listen and we learn about each other
We start arguing, we end arguing
We start discussing, we end up arguing – Discussionment
We start arguing, we end up discussing – Arguscussion
The best of these is when we talk, open up, listen and learn. It’s hard because how many of us listen only for our turn to talk or overtalk our spouse? How many times do we REALLY listen? Remember, hearing is the physical act of taking in sound. Listening is physical, emotional and spiritual.
If you can’t start and end communication easily, then at least have an arguscussion. Start rough, finish good.
Good life, good love,
CH & the IW
Add comment November 22, 2009
Join us for Love Life, Ultimate Strife – Real Talk with the Innerwife!
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What’s IN – Innerwife on TV tonight!
Hi all, Chad Hunter on Garrard McClendon Live tonight – November 13th! Hey everyone, catch me on CLTV’s Garrard McClendon Live at 6pm CDT! For more on GMC Live, go to http://www.cltv.com/news/gml/
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INhome – Take Turns
One of the biggest sources for relationship discord is assignment of duties. Who’s cooking? Who’s cleaning? I though it was your turn? Weren’t you going to do that? Why is it always me who…blahblahblah…
Most couples begin their relationship by establishing who will cook, who will clean, so on and so forth. And while this can be a good arrangement, most couples will, at some point, begin to tire and resent their “duties.” So, take turns.
Maybe you’re not the next Top Chef and maybe you overstock the garbage or streak the mirrors as you clean. But taking turns, trying the other person’s shoes on (even if you don’t shine them!) can help us appreciate each other’s contribution to the house and the relationship. Taking turns also helps us to diversify what we do and actually learn new things about ourselves.
So, before your partner gets the chance to roll their eyes at having to do another night of dishes, take turns. Say “It’s cool, baby, I’ll get these. You mind taking out the garbage instead?” Don’t let it be a trade-off, but instead, a change.
Add comment November 1, 2009
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INspirations – “We need not…”
“We need not think alike to love alike.”
- Francis David
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